How to Tell Your Loved One about Law of Attraction and not Sound Hokey

One of my big struggles with being a law of attraction practioner is trying to explain law of attraction to people who are not really into the metaphysical, people who think that meditation and visioning are just plain hokey and impractical. These people could be your spouses, friends, family, etc.

There will be a time where you need to "fess up" about your visioning, whether it be becasue you want to make a meditation room in your house, or a family member finds a vision journal you've been keeping, or you just want to be honest with who you are and how you go through life.

There are a number of things you can do to explain to your loved ones what you are doing with law of attraction:

1. Visualize yourself having the conversation with your loved one. Visualize that person listening to you. Visualize that person having an open mind and being interested in your conversation. Visualize that person accepting the method of being you have chosen for yourself. A script may go something like this:

Honey, I wanted to sit down and talk to you about some things I've been trying to make myself a more confident, happier person. Please don't take this to mean that I've been unhappy or have had low self-esteem. I am very fulfilled with our life together as it has been, but I've also been trying some mental exercises that I've learned to make things even better for myself and us. I've been learning some meditation and positive thinking techniques and I've been utilizing them, such as doing visualization exercises and keeping a journal of my life goals. I am sharing this with you because I love you and I hope that you support me in my efforts to try to improve myself in a positive way.

This script may trigger an open dialoque with your loved one about what *are* exactly your life goals. Perhaps your loved one has some goals of his or her own? This conversation can lead to a deep sharing with your loved one that will strengthen your relationship. Your partner may ask you how this change came about. Be honest with your loved one. If you learned about it from Oprah or a book, just be forthcoming. Honesty with yourself and others vibrates very strongly and will elevate your emotions.

2. Anticipate your loved one's concerns and be prepared to address them. Assure your loved one that your are not joining a cult (joke!) or abandoning conventional religion for something more spiritual if you know that it would upset your loved one. Explain that you are merely supplementing your current way of life with a way of being that will enhance the current lifestyle and make it better. Assure your loved one that you are not simply buying into the latest fad, but that you are serious about educating yourself to be a more self-aware and positive person.

3. Convince your loved one(s) that everything you do with law of attraction will help them too. Tell them that a happier you will make a happier them. How can they argue with that?

How Did I Get Into Law of Attraction?

My path to law of attraction is probably the same as most peoples'. I was around 30 or 31 years old, single and wondering why I was such a failure in the relationship department. And I certainly wasn't alone. At that time, many of my gal pals were feeling the same frustration.

A friend of mine had gotten herself on one these city professionals mailing lists which blasts upcoming events catering towards singles. One of these events was a one-day seminar on using law of attraction to find love. At that time, I had no clue about law of attraction or energy or anything. I was just a single gal looking for love and was open-minded about attending a seminar about it with my friend.

The seminar was hosted by Dr. Margaret McCraw and she taught the techniques described in her book, Tune Into Love. Both the seminar and book are good on fundamentals, i.e., what is law of attraction, what is law of vibration, using your emotions as a metric for whether your thoughts are aligned with your desires, and so forth - ultimately, how to attract the mate of your desires using all of those elements.

I started reading the book the night of the seminar and it revolutionized my thinking. And this was before Oprah and The Secret and everything else. Here's what I garnered from the book as my first interaction with law of attraction.

1. You attract what you think. Therefore, if you're thinking positively, you attract positive and if you're thinking negatively, you attract negative.

2. Thoughts are energy. Every time you think, you send out a vibration. That vibration is either a negative one or a positive one, thus attracting positive or negative results.

3. If you want to get whatever you want out of life (a mate, financial independence, a new job, etc.), vision yourself with that desire and keep doing it. Again, thoughts are energy and since energy attracts, you will ultimately attract what you are thinking. So make those thoughts be good ones.

4. You know you're doing it right if you feel good. Your emotions are your metric. If you are thinking about something and it's making you feel sad, angry or hurt, then you are not focusing on your desires.

5. To cure the problem in #4 above, change your thoughts and focus on the positive. This will make you have a happier emotion.

6. A happier emotion sends out happy vibrations, which attracts happy desires.

7. In the realm of attracting your mate, visualize exactly what you want in detail. It's ok to be picky. You are in this universe and by virtue of your existence alone, you have the right to want and expect exactly what you want. So if you like tall men, visualize a tall man. If you want tall and wealthy, visualize yourself with a tall and wealthy guy. If you like 'em tall, wealthy and funny, visualize that. Keep going until you feel like you've captured everything. Then make a written list of your preferences and refer back to that list regularly to remind yourself of your preferences and to keep the vibration going.

8. Get rid of the thoughts of "I have to lose 10 pounds to be desirable", or "I'm not attractive enough", or "I have too much baggage", etc. What you think that men find attractive in the conventional sense is not applicable here. You don't have to have model looks to deserve and attract your model man. Law of attraction does not go down that path, so you don't have to either.

9. With respect to #8 above, it's like when someone walks in a room and you just feel their presence and energy. That person owns the room. That person may not be the most conventionally beautiful person in the room, but for some reason, that person has a presence that can't be ignored. That's law of attraction. So next time you walk into a room or bar or restaurant, walk in fearless and with confidence. Feel your own energy inside you knowing that others in the room are feeling it too.

Since that time, I've been with my boyfriend now for almost a year. This stuff really works. Try it. You have nothing to lose at all.